This makes me want to barf, on so many levels:
Martha Flach mentioned meat twice in her Match.com profile: "I love architecture, The New Yorker, dogs ... steak for two and the Sunday puzzle."
She was seeking, she added, "a smart, funny, kind man who owns a suit (but isn't one) ... and loves red wine and a big steak."
The repetition worked. On her first date with Austin Wilkie, they ate steak frites. A year later, after burgers at the Corner Bistro in Greenwich Village, he proposed. This March, the rehearsal dinner was at Keens Steakhouse on West 36th Street, and the wedding menu included mini-cheeseburgers and more steak.
Ms. Wilkie was a vegetarian in her teens, and even wore a "Meat Is Murder" T-shirt. But by her 30s, she had started eating cow. By the time she placed the personal ad, she had come to realize that ordering steak on a first date had the potential to sate appetites not only of the stomach but of the heart.
Girls, remember when you had to pick daintily at your salad on the first date? Well, those days are no more. Salads seem "wimpy, insipid, childish," and if you order one, you'll be considered "vapid and uninteresting." Men these days want women who want steak. Big, nasty, bleeding steak. "Meat is strategy" in the dating scene, and ordering a nice fat steak on your first date lets suitors know that you are "unpretentious and down to earth and unneurotic," and that you're "not obsessed" with weight and you "don't have any food issues." Which is so much easier than, you know, actually having to express that with a personality or something.
Never mind the reasons one might have for eschewing flesh, we women better get on board the meat express if we want to bring home a man. Because what we eat, like every other major life decision, should be based on what the opposite sex will think about it. Thank you, New York Times, for letting me know that perhaps what my life is lacking is a meat-centered romance, one where I can "be myself" by eating hunks of dead animal.
Or maybe I could just eat WTF I feel like eating.
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JMG Posted 4:37 am
09 Aug 2007
Save the world: Reduce greenhouse gas emissions 5% annually.
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Delay And Deny Posted 4:54 am
09 Aug 2007
Do all the hormones in beef bring on woman's mustaches at an earlier age?
Just wondering...
Sign me,
Kurious in Kent
John Bailo
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Holly Richmond Posted 5:08 am
09 Aug 2007
"When a guy sits down and eats something fatty and big, you wonder if they eat like that all the time," said Brice Gaillard, a freelance design writer. "It crosses my mind they'll probably die early."
Although that was in the context of suggesting men must publicly adhere to a different diet ("Real men...must eat kale") than women. Mmm, prescribed gender rolls roles...delicious.
Does it bother anyone else that the article's title refers to women in their thirties as "girls"?
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Icelander Posted 5:25 am
09 Aug 2007
I'd refer to any woman who acted that way as a "girl." And I'm only 25.
Though I'm not dating anymore, I'd rather have a woman who is adventurous and wants to try new things than someone who sticks with something boring and bland. (Most steaks in restaurants are from factory farms and taste like, well, nothing.)
I'm glad I'm not dating these days, since the idea of being genuine is so old fashioned. It seems more like peacocks strutting around trying to impress each other than people trying to get to know someone.
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odograph Posted 5:44 am
09 Aug 2007
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AHanley Posted 5:46 am
09 Aug 2007
Nice try buddy. I just wanted the salad.
Great post, Kate!
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odograph Posted 6:11 am
09 Aug 2007
Though, for the sake of accuracy, an In-N-Out burger is smallish, and a double-double is still smaller than many conventional burgers. You can get weird combinations like 4x4s if you ask ... they make a game of pretending a "secret menu"
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PermieWriter Posted 6:21 am
09 Aug 2007
Oh, my bad. That's the plot of the subsequent "Clan of the Cave Bear" novels.
Eat what you grow, grow what you eat
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MarkUK Posted 6:21 am
09 Aug 2007
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wayneluke Posted 6:55 am
09 Aug 2007
I think that a woman who is engaging and fun to be around is more important than what is on her plate that night.
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Pangolin Posted 8:48 am
09 Aug 2007
I would say that perception is accurate. The average table in a vegan restaurant is occupied by two 30-50 year old women. The average table in Outback is occupied by a mixed couple.
When turning vegan turns into a fast track to plentiful, kinky sex, there will be a rush to vegitate by men. It's going to be a lo_o_o_ong wait before anything like that happens.
I think I have carnitas in the fridge. Bye.
Put the Carbon Back
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Sarah K. Burkhalter Posted 9:29 am
09 Aug 2007
Hark, Pangolin! Your lo_o_o_ong wait is over.
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Sam Wells Posted 10:33 am
09 Aug 2007
Beware the toxic dressings though, my friends.
Onward through the fog
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watermirrors Posted 12:15 pm
09 Aug 2007
Not that I believe in modifying my diet to get dates. If you pretend to like food you don't actually like, you are attracting men who are attracted to your act, not the real you.
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Liz Borkowski Posted 1:36 am
10 Aug 2007
In this article, we hear from a few individual daters:
Two women who attribute their dating success to ordering meat
One vegetarian who wonders if eating a burger might improve her dating success
One woman who doesn't want to be seen eating too much
One woman who doesn't just want to order the salad
And a few "experts":
"Restauarateurs and veterans of the dating scene" (This could mean anything from "I phoned the top 50 Zagat-rated restaurants for their take, and posted a poll on the top five online dating sites" to "I asked my single friends and someone I know from high school who runs a cafe.")
Wollensky & Smith's Concept VP (clearly an unbiased source, right?)
A dining editor from Time Out NY
Oh, and Nicole Richie and Paris Hilton have been seen eating burgers or professing their intent to eat same. Color me convinced!
Will the NYT commission me to write an article about how going vegetarian to stop global warming is a hot new trend? I promise it will be just as compellingly sourced.
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carrie1 Posted 2:04 pm
10 Aug 2007
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Jason D Scorse Posted 4:42 am
11 Aug 2007
I teach environmental economics and blog at http://www.voicesofreason.info.
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Biodiversivist Posted 11:47 am
11 Aug 2007
There are a few chefs in Paris who might take exception to that and calling everyone who eats meat lazy is somewhat disingenious ...also.
In the end, it all comes down to biodiversity. Poison Darts--Protecting the biodiversity of our world
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Sam Wells Posted 4:17 am
12 Aug 2007
You mentioned the French ... some Vietnamese recipes were heavily influenced by the French but they could make any meat go a long way. They're pretty good at balance of taste, heat (watch the peppers!), starches, fruits, and vegetables. A bowl of Pho (noodle soup) might only have a few teensy pieces of meat in it, but is good with me. Na Trang, mainly seafood in soup with Chinese spinach, is my favorite, though. The pineapple makes it somehow very special. /sammie
Onward through the fog
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kmp Posted 6:42 am
12 Aug 2007
Pathetic indeed but I can guarantee there are women in NY right now testing the (bloody) waters, simply because of those three little words: date, proposal, wedding.
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Jason D Scorse Posted 4:12 pm
12 Aug 2007
I teach environmental economics and blog at http://www.voicesofreason.info.
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keaty Posted 11:58 pm
12 Aug 2007
My main point is that the snarkish criticism and side-taking doesn't help anything. We're all just doing what we can. I happen to forgo animal products. If that's not a good option for you, no biggie. But what the heck does either choice have to do with finding someone to love?
Cheers,
Keaty
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amc89 Posted 2:05 am
13 Aug 2007
Interesting that in the UK, news articles have described how eager people are to show off their eco-friendliness in order to attract mates. Wish the same could be said in NY City. At any rate, I've never had a man express disapproval of my my veggie diet. And if a man did give you a hard time for having a vegetarian/vegan diet diet, I think that should give a woman signals that he's not the most open-minded and tolerant of people.
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therealpotato Posted 9:38 am
17 Aug 2007
Personally, I try to pick an original spot where the food is remarkable enough to spark the conversation. If your potential date mentions they've never tried Ethiopian food, why not go out for some doro wat? If you're using food to learn about someone's personality, wouldn't you rather gauge things like how adventurous they are or how much joy they take in delicious new dishes? Come on, people, you're in New York, live a little!
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