No one wants to scrimp on matters of the heart. And not a lot of lovebirds want to pass up the chance to throw a meaning-laden bash with friends, family, and bubbly that ends in a sex-crazed vacation. Who could say no to that?
But when it comes to weddings, there are greener ways to get hitched. Today, earth-friendlier versions of conventional weddings are blooming everywhere -- from "Days of Our Lives" to the pages of Modern Bride. Thanks to an increasingly robust eco-marketplace that offers everything from organic champagne to biodegradable confetti, walking down the aisle without leaving a huge carbon footprint is a piece of connubial cake. And ideas abound for alternative (i.e., non-extravaganza) ceremonies too.
All it takes is some simple planning and a bit of pruning for the guest list (do you really need to fly in your fourth cousins from Slobovia?). After that, just feel the love -- the kind that extends to your betrothed and to the ground we all walk on.
Here are a few ideas to get you started -- and we welcome those of you who have walked the eco-aisle to share your story in the comments section below.
Level One: The Baby Step
Be a skipper. As in, skip the rice tossing. It's potentially bad for birds and wildlife, and it's definitely messy. If you must provide something for guests to toss, opt for something like birdseed -- unless the event is in a wilderness area where feeding critters isn't allowed. Try skipping a few other things, too, like party favors and place cards. The industry will tell you these things are a must, but any guest who's left an event laden down with them will tell you they're a bust. If you can't bear to skip them, consider giving garden seeds as favors and writing your guests' names on stones. Don't worry, Martha would approve.
Level Two: The Next Steps
Dress reversal. Green wedding garb, like the best love affairs, shouldn't leave a trail of toxic residue behind. Buy new or nearly-new gowns at places like Encore Bridal or your local secondhand store; check out the green wedding site Portovert; or shop at Anna Cohen, a Vera Wang of the green world. And guys: keep renting those tuxes! If you could really use new threads, buy organic cotton dress shirts or hemp suits that you can wear again.
Do the local-motive. Yes, Fiji is pretty this time of year, but making your guests jet there to see you wed is guaranteed to produce a world of CO2 hurt. So get married in a central spot near the majority of your guests. And when you're buying the wedding goodies, snag them locally, to reduce the carbon costs of driving and shipping. If you can't find the shops you need, browse Co-op America's green pages to find local-organic flowers, décor, food, and drink -- including fine champagne and wine.
Bling it on. Diamonds, as we know, are a churl's best friend. Metal mining -- another nightmare -- is a No. 1 polluter in the United States, according to No Dirty Gold; a single band of gold produces 20 tons of deadly mine waste. So ring in the new: buy from the growing class of conflict-free gems, including eco-friendly diamonds and gold made with fair labor practices. Recycled jewelry glitters just as nicely.
Guide yer gifters. This is where your noblesse can really oblige. Ask people to forgo that third toaster they were about to give you and instead request gifts from a green registry like VivaTerra. Even better, encourage guests to buy carbon offsets, contribute toward an experience (skydiving lessons, here you come!), or donate to any number of cool charities via nonprofits like the I Do Foundation, which also accepts donated wedding dresses when the day's done.
Level Three: The Big Step
Say 'I Don't.' Traditional weddings doth not automatically a happy marriage make; being in love is what counts. So why not escape the headaches and pressures of party planning -- while saving major amounts of money and stress on you and the earth -- and just elope? Say your vows at city hall, vault neatly over the months of work and piles of bills, and stick the perfect landing. It's an option that bucks tradition, to be sure -- but it's just as likely to lead to a happy ending.
Resources
General guides and info for green weddings
Great Green Wedding
Green Elegance Weddings
Sierra Club
The Knot
Co-op America
Portovert
Green invites and paper
Twisted Limb
Green confetti
Eco-clothing for men and women
Green Elegance Weddings
Bollo Organic
Downbound
Couture SF
Anna Cohen
Olivia Luca
Encore Bridal
Organic champagne, wine, beer
Organic Vintners
Organic Champagne
Vintage Roots
Responsible jewelry
No Dirty Gold
GreenKarat
Brilliant Earth
Donations, gifts, and offsets
Brides Against Cancer
Changing the Present
Sierra Club
TerraPass
Carbonfund
NativeEnergy
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kellymayk Posted 3:33 am
29 Apr 2008
We registered for only things we would really use, and were able to make listings for unique items including: experiences instead of stuff (like a gift certificate to a great restaurant), carbon offsets for our car, and candles from a local candlemaker.
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vegsister Posted 4:10 am
29 Apr 2008
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enkyenky Posted 6:30 am
29 Apr 2008
We have been trying to be eco in every step of our celebration, from asking guests to contribute in our names to our favorite charities to offsetting carbon for travel to and from the wedding. Oh, and we're also completely reseeding our ceremony site (on my family's land) with native crops (that's going to be our Memorial Day --party!).
There are absolutely thousands of ways to make the celebration less taxing on the planet -- it's just a matter of putting a little thought into what you want and what you really need, and then resolving those two desires.
And lest anyone say a green wedding is beyond their financial means, we're doing this on a very, very limited budget.
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deborah gangloff Posted 1:39 am
30 Apr 2008
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lfrankli Posted 5:24 am
30 Apr 2008
I love the tips for reducing your impact, and I certainly think there is value in simplicity (weddings tend to be the ultimate examples of gaudy excess) but what about being more proactive and inspirational? Celebrate love AND the environment by writing vows that incorporate environmental values! Leave tips for community involvement tucked into guest invitations! Make people feel involved, welcomed even, into the environmental and socially conscious fold, not excluded by the sometimes-pretentious eco-chic attitude.
It is just another example of us environmentalists pointing fingers at everything in the world and deeming it wrong. Let's try to change the dialogue a bit.
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green8659 Posted 4:07 pm
08 May 2008
However, my wife's ring is platinum and I don't even want to know what had to go into making that.
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amc89 Posted 4:33 am
15 Jul 2008
Probably the next most important decision is the source of the food, and I second the suggestion that one of the best ways to reduce the impact of the wedding meal is to go with a vegetarian menu. A growing number of cratering companies are specializing in vegetarian cuisine. If you must have flesh on the menu, at least 1. Make it Humane Certified and 2. Offer plenty of vegetarian/vegan options. I just got an invitation for a wedding where my options are fish or chicken. I'm not able to attend, but if I did, I would have been very hungry. With more and more people helping animals and the planet by turning away from animal products, there's a great chance there will be vegetarians on the guest list, so it's pretty inconsiderate to not offer a veggie option.
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